By: Rose Anne Burgos
Māori funeral rituals, or Tangi, can seem unfamiliar and overwhelming, especially during such an emotionally charged time. Grieving is hard enough, and when coupled with the complexities of Māori traditions, it's easy to feel lost. But don’t worry—we’re here to guide you through the key aspects of the Tangi, so you can better understand the customs and your role within them.
What Are Common Māori Funeral Rituals? And What Part Do You Play?
A Tangi (Māori funeral) is a significant event in Māori culture, typically lasting three days or more. It is a time to mourn the death of a loved one, honour their life, and support the grieving family. The rituals performed at a Māori funeral are deeply tied to Māori identity and spirituality.
So, what can you expect at a Tangi, and what role do you play?
1. The Welcome onto the Marae
Upon arrival at the marae (the Māori community meeting ground), you’ll be welcomed onto the grounds. This is a gesture of hospitality, welcoming you as part of the community, and signifies that you are now a part of the grieving process. You'll be shown to where the body is, and given information on how to conduct yourself during your time there.
2. The Body is Displayed
A key part of the Tangi is the open-casket viewing. The body is placed in a wharenui (meeting house), often near the back wall. Māori beliefs hold that the spirit of the deceased is still present among the living at this stage, so it’s important to approach the casket with respect.
3. The Role of the Bereaved Family
The bereaved family plays a very specific role during the Tangi. They are expected to mourn their loss openly, and it is seen as a deeply respectful act to show emotion during this time. Expect to see many tears, and the family will often be surrounded by loved ones offering their comfort.
4. Never Leaving the Deceased Alone
A fundamental ritual of the Tangi is that the body is never left alone. A member of the deceased's family will remain beside the body at all times—whether they are eating, sleeping, or using the bathroom. This shows their commitment to their loved one, ensuring they’re never alone in the afterlife.
What to do as a Guest at a Tangi
As a guest, your role is to show respect, be supportive, and help the family in any way you can. You don’t need to understand all the rituals to participate. Here are some simple guidelines to follow:
· Be yourself: The atmosphere is one of mourning and remembrance. Feel free to share stories, reflect on the deceased's life, and offer comfort to the family.
· Show respect: If you’re unsure of what to do, it’s always okay to ask. Māori culture is rooted in community, and people are often happy to help guide newcomers.
· Lend a hand: If the family needs assistance, whether it's preparing food, setting up, or just providing emotional support, your gesture will be appreciated.
For more detailed information about Māori funeral rituals, including the role of a celebrant and other cultural insights, visit this resource.
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